Changing This One Habit Can Make You More Likable
The bible of social interactions "How to Win Friends and Influence People" shared this same advice back in 1936.
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Everyone likes to be liked, but most of us tend to have at least one bad habit that may turn people off. More than any others, ditching this one habit in particular can make you more likable.
Think about this: You’re in the middle of explaining a story to someone when—bam!—he or she interrupts and turns the tide of the conversation. It’s hard to recover from an interruption. Interrupting is not only annoying, but it’s a conversation killer, and it’s one that can really turn people off.
As this article about the detriments of interrupting on Business Insider pointed out, there’s nothing new here. It’s the same advice Dale Carnegie of “How to Win Friends and Influence People” fame pointed out back in 1936:
If you want to know how to make people shun you and laugh at you behind your back and even despise you, here is the recipe: Never listen to anyone for long. Talk incessantly about yourself. If you have an idea while the other person is talking, don’t wait for him or her to finish: bust right in and interrupt in the middle of a sentence.
Learning to wait and listen to someone and not interrupt can improve your conversations, your relationships and even your negotiating skills. Here are a few reasons why interrupting is something you need to cut out of your life ASAP:
1. Interrupting Makes You Seem Self-Centered
If you can’t wait until someone else is done with their thought, it will definitely seem you like see your ideas as superior to theirs.
2. It Ruins The Flow Of Conversation
Nothing stops the flow of ideas like the abrupt ending of someone’s sentence. Don’t break the rhythm of a good conversation by continuously switching it back to yourself.
3. It Makes People Defensive
Jumping in and either correcting someone or adding your two-cents might make them feel threatened. Because of this, they’ll naturally get defensive.
4. It Encourages Others To Interrupt You
If someone else feels like they can’t get a word in, they’ll cut you off to finish what they want to say.
5. It Limits Trust
Making someone feel threatened in conversation is only going to make them trust you less, so pause, and hold your thoughts until the other person is done speaking. And don’t forget to actually listen!
[h/t Business Insider]