I’ve always wanted Drew Barrymore to be part of my girl tribe. She just oozes cool. And now, after watching her talk about her kid’s tantrums on Seth Meyers, my girl crush is cemented. Drew Barrymore, will you please be my mommy friend?
Talking to Meyers about her kiddos, Olive and Frankie, Barrymore is all of us. Especially when she shares pics of Olive throwing a tantrum at the happiest place on earth. #beenthere
“If you’ve ever taken your kid to Disneyland or Disney World, it all ends at some point in mayhem,” she said.
Girl, we feel you.
She goes on to explain to Meyers just how unpredictable tantrums can be, and how she chooses to handle them.
“I think you should have 10 consistent tools in your arsenal. It’s either the tender, loving approach or the ‘I’m very serious’ approach,” she wisely advises newer dad Meyers.
Turns out, Barrymore is right. Having some handy “tools” in your back pocket for dealing with meltdowns is key. So, what are the best ways to diffuse a tantrum?
1. Ignore Them
Alan Kazdin, PhD, author of “The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child,” told Parents ignoring a tantrum can be the best bet.
“Once you’re in a situation where someone’s drowning, you can’t teach them to swim—and it’s the same with tantrums. There’s nothing to do in the moment that will make things better. In fact, almost anything you try will make it worse. Once he chills out, then you can talk,” he said.
Most moms have a handful of bizarre, yet useful junk in their purse. When your kid is throwing a tantrum try distracting with a snack or mini-figure you find in your grab bag. Or, even point at something interesting in the distance. “Hey, look is that a bird?”
3. Hug Them
This may seem counter-intuitive. When your kid is losing her marbles, the last thing you want to do is snuggle up to them. But a simple hug can make your kid feel safe, and sometimes that’s all it takes to diffuse the situation.
4. Remove Them
Sometimes the best thing to do is just remove your child from the situation. Pick them up and take them someplace quiet to calm down. A change in scenery can lead to a change in attitude.
5. Laugh It Off
While tantrums can make you want to cry and scream yourself, resist the urge. Maintaining your composure and sense of humor will help you look and feel in control.
It’s clear my girl Drew keeps her sense of humor while dealing with these unpredictable tantrums. And these pictures are proof that sometimes—when all else fails—you just have to laugh.