Why One Man Isn’t Abandoning His Ex-Wife, Despite Their Divorce

It comes down to his kids and the example he wants to set for them.

Acrimonious divorces aren’t hard to find nowadays. Even though the rate of marital separations has declined significantly over the past few decades, it’s still common to find people who not only have divorced their significant other but actively loathe them. Such is not the case for one man, though, and his touching post about his ex-wife might leave you in tears.

In a Facebook status that has since gone viral, Billy Flynn Gadbois wrote about how he still works hard to show affection towards his ex-wife. As an example, he wrote that he’d woken up early that day to buy flowers, cards and breakfast ingredients so his kids could surprise their mother (his ex) on her birthday.

Apparently Gadbois is accustomed to fielding questions about why he still cares for and helps his ex-wife despite their separation, so he cleared things up for everyone. The post reads in part, “I’m raising two little men. The example I set for how I treat their mom is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women and affect their perception of relationships. I think even more so in my case because we are divorced.

This is a good point—it’s undeniable that children learn by modeling their behavior after that of their parents. The post continues, “If you aren’t modeling good relationship behavior for your kids, get your sh*t together. Rise above it and be an example. This is bigger than you. Raise good men. Raise strong women. Please. The world needs them, now more than ever.”

The post has since received more than 20,000 comments since it was shared by the Love What Matters Facebook page. For his part, Gadbois is not entirely enthralled with the attention he’s getting—in a recent Facebook post on his own page, he warned friends not to get involved with those who might question his choices.

“It’s not worth engaging and bringing negativity into your life,” he wrote.

And according to an interview with TODAY, it seems Gadbois and his ex-wife have co-parenting pretty well figured out.

“I’m not saying everyone needs to help the kids make breakfast,” he said in the interview. “But the message people are getting is that you can show each other respect and care in front of the kids, and help the kids care for that parent, regardless of how you feel about each other.”

Wise words indeed.