As women, we often feel like we’re expected to “do it all.” We compare ourselves to others and wonder why one friend’s house is so sparkling all the time and the other’s kids never have a meltdown. Then there’s the one who has a high-powered career and a picture-perfect marriage. Well, one mom is doing her part to put to rest the myth that any of us are “superwomen.” And what’s more, we shouldn’t be ashamed to admit when we need help. In fact, it’s perfectly fine to ask for it—or pay for it.
Leslie Means is the cofounder of the popular site Her View From Home, and she spoke out about her choice to hire a housekeeper in a Facebook post that has since gone viral:
Along side a photo of her home looking spotless, Means wrote, “Today, I paid a stranger to clean my home. We aren’t wealthy. Far from it. We’re just a typical middle-class family living in Middle America. We have student loans from our college days (even though we’re climbing our way to 40). We shop the Target clearance section and rarely go on vacation. We work a lot. When we’re not working, we’re spending time at kid activities or church functions or family birthday parties.”
She goes on to explain that between two busy careers and raising three young children, she and her husband are understandably exhausted at the end of each day. She says that her “breaking point” came when she sat down on the floor to clean up yet another mess and noticed hand prints on her white cupboards in addition to cobwebs in the corner and glob of ketchup on the chair.
“And then, right there, I made a decision to hire a house cleaner. Because at night, I’m too tired to do it. And on the weekends, I want to spend more time with the people I love and less with my broom. Lazy? No. I don’t think so. Smart? Yes,” she declared.
Here’s a sweet shot of Means enjoying much-deserved quality time with her family:
Means’ post was met with an outpouring of support from other women who vehemently agreed that the choice to hire a housekeeper does not mean you’re lazy.
“I needed this! Thank you! I just can’t keep up, some days I feel like that’s all I do… And it still isn’t clean to my liking. I have really been wanting to hire someone to help,” read one comment.
“You young women working, raising kids, feeding the family and everything else you do, are amazing. You deserve a house cleaner. They do a fantastic job and allows you the time for more enjoyment – don’t feel guilty!” said another.
And it turns out research confirms Means’ stance. A study found that paying someone to do your household chores can actually make you happier. We’d say anything that can bring you more joy in life is a worthwhile investment. We hope Means’ post will give women everywhere the freedom to let go of the guilt when it comes to making choices that bring a bit more balance to their busy lives.