Actors Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard have been married for four years. “The Good Place” star and her funny man husband share two kids together: four-year-old Lincoln and three-year-old Delta. Bell have previously opened up about the hard work required to make their marriage successful. Now, in response to a request from a fan to write a note for friends who are getting married, Bell shared her handwritten tips on Instagram:
In her caption, Bell explained that she decided to share the wisdom she gleaned through her relationship, writing:
“I received a letter from a nice man who asked if I could write a note to his friends who are getting married. I wrote something congratulatory but then thought ‘Kristen! Wait! You are an old married woman, shouldn’t you have some wisdom to share?!’ After I was finished I realized what I wrote is pretty much the A-Z of how @daxshepard and I keep our relationship healthy. It’s worked for us so far, so here ya go. #happyvalentinesday.”
In her handwritten note, Bell outlined the lessons she has learned throughout her marriage, including the importance of vulnerability, loving your partner despite their faults and allowing them their own interests.
Bell also suggested that couples “take necessary separateness,” which she believes will make a marriage better, echoing a sentiment expressed by another Hollywood star, Sarah Jessica Parker, who credits time apart as a key component in her lasting union with Matthew Broderick.
Bell acknowledged that a relationship can become more challenging as time goes on “when the dopamine has waned,” but having someone by your side to weather the ups and downs makes it easier, writing, “Life is a crazy ride. It’s a privilege to go through it with a partner.”
Bell ended her note by urging people to make an effort to bring your best self to a relationship, writing, “Know that everyone is doing they best they can with what they’ve got. So get a bigger emotional tool box to fix your problems.”
What do you think? Do you agree with Bell’s advice?