Every relationship comes with its fair share of arguments. It’s perfectly normal to have disagreements, but you’ll want to make sure your relationship can survive the fight. Kristen Bell always thought she was great at arguing. But her husband, Dax Shepard, actually taught her the right way to disagree with your partner.
“We’d get in a fight—because we would fight a lot—and I’d like yell something then slam the bedroom door. Then I’d slam the front door. Then I’d get in my car and then I’d skid out the driveway and I would sit around the corner in my car,” the actress told Harry Connick Jr. as a guest on his show, “Harry.” “It felt so good, and I realized how incredibly toxic it was only after he pointed it out.”
Apparently, Shepard quickly let her know that the storming out of the house thing was not something he was going to put up with.
“Three months into our relationship he was like, ‘You can’t leave anymore during fights. I’m not going to do that.’ I was like, ‘What?’ He’s like ‘you can’t do that, I’m not going to have a relationship like that,’ she said on the show. “He has a very high standard and a strong code of ethics. He was like, ‘No, I have more respect for myself, I love you but I’m not going to do that my whole life.'”
And honestly—it was a good move on his part.
Good news is, it all worked out in the end.
“And now we fight beautifully,” Bell said.
The pair have been married since 2013 and have two daughters together.
Bell may have been the one getting the lessons in the beginning of her relationship with her husband, but now that she’s got two little girls, she hands out her fair share of advice.
She has an excellent way of getting her kids to stay close-by when they get out of a car. She made it a game, so that way—they’re not running loose in an busy parking lot.
And lucky for us—she shared the parenting hack on Instagram.
“The phrase we say as we jump out of the car. ‘Hands on the circle’ (the circle is the gas cap) was invented by my brilliant sister in law, and has thus far kept all kiddos safe from any oncoming traffic while I unload the trunk,” the post read.
And in case you’re wondering, the couple isn’t afraid to let their kids see them have arguments. Because it’s a learning moment for the entire family.
Bell told Us Weekly that this was Shepard’s idea. He told her, “Kids can see adults fight, particularly their parents, but you ever think about the follow through? When do they see them resolve it? When do they see them make up? And kids mimic us. That’s how they grow.”
She continued to tell the magazine, “We always make an effort to make them see…we let our kids see how to solve conflict and that was his idea.”
So, even when problems arise, it’s nothing this couple can’t handle. They’ve got this whole growing as a family thing sorted out.