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With the New Year approaching, many people are starting to think about their resolutions. Most people would agree that they are ready for 2016 to be over and for an awesome new year to begin. But, as we all well know, change is easier said than done. That is why 80 percent of New Year’s resolutions fail, sometimes before we even have time to drag our old Christmas tress to the curb!
Luckily, inspirational speaker and all-around motivational MVP Tony Robbins has some great advice for anyone looking to break out of a funk and begin the new year (or begin right now, even) on a new path.
1. Understand That You Get What You Tolerate
Sounds simple, but it’s a basic principle that many people seem to miss. If you tolerate feelings of stress, worthlessness and shame, you are only going to continue replicating those feelings, both consciously and subconsciously.
2. Learn That You Have More Power Than You Think
Author and activist Alice Walker once famously said, “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” If you want to get out of a rut, it is crucial that you realize that you are in the driver’s seat. Don’t sit back and wait for your life to get better or for things to fall into place. Get into action.
3. Don’t Get Addicted To Negativity
Research shows that negative feelings are actually self-perpetuating. For example, if someone believes “I am fat and unhealthy,” they will be more likely to make unhealthy choices due to feelings of shame and helplessness. One study from University College London shows that those who felt they had been the victims of “fat shaming” were six times as likely to become obese. If you allow negative thoughts to rule your brain, you will struggle to find forward momentum.
4. Start With Self-Love
Most people tackle their New Year’s resolutions from a place of self-hatred, such as “I am so bad with money” or “I can’t believe how much I let myself go.” But as shame researcher and New York Times bestselling author Brene Brown explains, “Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.”
In other words, if you truly want to make deep, lasting change, then you need to do so from a place of self-love and self-care. Instead of thinking, “I am so fat, I need to lose 20 pounds,” you can think, “My goal for 2017 is to spend time each week being active and taking care of my body.” Or instead of thinking, “I have to start saving money or I am never going to be able to retire,” why not think, “This year I am going to look for creative and fun ways to spend less money and enjoy life more.”
5. Find A Purpose Greater Than Yourself
Whether it is your family, your community or your commitment to global causes, Tony Robbins says that it is crucial to find a purpose that is larger than yourself. At the end of the day, that is what is going to motivate to focus on your goals. Whether you want to start your own business or run a marathon, you will be likely to stay the course if you have a purpose that is greater than yourself.
There you have it: It all comes down to love. Love for self, love for others, and a desire to work hard and do great things.
Watch Tony Robbins’ advice for getting out of a funk on Business Insider.